If your responses in a disagreement with your partner aren’t aiding resolution, they’re often subtly increasing tension.

What makes this a bomb is that it exposes the other person’s posture. If they keep fighting, it becomes clear they’re ...

The single best explanation for that lightning-fast slide from “disagreement” to “I’m under attack” is attachment sensitivity ...

Imagine believing that a small flaw will create the most catastrophic outcome. Also, imagine believing that only the apparently perfect are worthy of love. While most of us can become defensive from ...

Someone told you to stop being so defensive. Your response? "I'm not defensive." Wait, was that a defensive statement? It may well have been. Defensiveness is common, but it's not always the best ...

Every message you send in the workplace carries weight. Without your awareness, emotional undercurrents, such as defensiveness, comparison, imagined judgments, or fear can seep into the tone of your ...

Forbes contributors publish independent expert analyses and insights. I write about self-leadership and leading others. Trust isn’t built when leaders agree with others; it’s built in how they handle ...

A person's defensiveness is a psychological shield. When an innocent question about a seemingly harmless topic triggers an angry or evasive response, it's often a sign that you've stumbled upon a ...